Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted

Living during a global pandemic and experiencing two lock downs this year has created a sea of despair, apathy and loneliness for many regardless of gender, age, socio-economic or marital status.

The Office for National Statistics (ONS) research has seen levels of loneliness fluctuating during the pandemic showing about one in four adults experiencing loneliness sometimes. However in the week up to 1 November the measure of more acute loneliness – those “always or often” lonely – reached 8%, the highest it has been since the start of the pandemic, and representing 4.2 million people. Pre-pandemic surveys showed about 5% of adults “always or often” lonely which equates to about 2.6 million people.

The rise of the virtual church and living has contributed to loneliness due to limited in person contact for church goers which has created a sense of disconnect for many especially those that struggle with using technology. Psychological difficulties such as depression and social anxiety are predictors of loneliness and living during another lock down only serves to further exacerbate this. Its important for Church Leaders to be aware of this and to consider how to remain relevant by addressing the Church members diverse needs and being innovative in countering loneliness. It’s important to remember that you’re part of the body of Christ and the church isn’t the building but the people.

If you’re feeling lonely consider how you can counter this and it may be serving in the church , volunteering or meeting with friends for regular walks. God is your heavenly father and understand s how you feel and even when He doesn’t appear to be present remember that He will never leave or forsake you ( Hebrews 13v15) and the Holy spirt is your comforter and counsellor in times of need. King David experienced times of loneliness and turned to God in his time of affliction and loneliness (Psalms 25v16) Loneliness Hacks! Go to places where there are many people but you’re not expected to speak them such as a Shopping Mall, Super Market, Gym or Language class where everyone is focused on an activity. The aforementioned activities can be useful if you feel a little anxious or nervous.